4 minutes is the average time that your brain needs to know whether you will appreciate a person or have a negative preconception about them.
As much to say to yourself that the first impression is so crucial when developing your social personality.
Quite paradoxical given our article on the judgment of others, you might say. Certainly, but to know how to free yourself from it does not mean it should not be taken into consideration: we evolve with the contact of others, it is natural to show them our psychological adaptation to our environment.
The challenges of making a good first impression are found in areas as diverse and varied: the world of work (job interview), seduction (meeting people of the opposite sex) or education (ability to bind links camaraderie) and contribute to the emergence of personal fulfillment.
Therefore, it is clear that to improve your relationship skills you will have to work on your impact with strangers.
Never forget that the first few minutes of a meeting mark forever the image one has of you.
1. Make a good first impression by getting used to one’s environment
The image that you spread to strangers you meet relies heavily on your ability to follow certain social codes and your tendency not to break with the standards of the environment in which you operate.
Thus, your image cannot be fixed; it must adapt to the context of your meeting.
Accommodate your style of dress according to the occasion:
To make a good first impression, it is, of course, necessary to avoid at all costs spoiling and getting out of the mold in which your interlocutors are evolving.
If you go to a job interview at a bank, the suit well cut, the dress shoes of good quality and the classic haircut will be musts, whereas if you show up at an audition to enter a rock-trash-metal band, you will rather do in a hardcore way.
It is all about targets and logic.
An open non-verbal language:
The first thing that people notice about you, besides your clothing style, is your way of disposition, your gait, and your facial expressions.
An individual who wants to impress his audience is, therefore, imperative to be likable, smiling and moving in space in a way to reflect his self-confidence.
Shyness and being closed-mindedness are elements that we must curb by a heightened motivation.
Know that we will be judged on subjective criteria that create a considerable pressure, so it is your ability to disregard it and to play the “role” expected of you that will define the effectiveness of your first impression in the eyes of your audience.
Proper language level and irreproachable attitude:
What is true for your look is true for your attitude in general. You have to adapt your way of being and to express according to the expectations of people in front of you.
What is certain is that you will not react in the same way with friends than with a potential employer.
Your level of language reflects your general knowledge and your ability to excel. This must be worked if you want to demonstrate your charisma through words.
Regarding the attitude and the reactions to adopt, making a good first impression is based on your ability to be polite, responsive and friendly even under the pressure of stress.
Criticism or questions that make your reasoning wobbly should not and cannot make you turn to aggressivity or a defensive posture.
2. Affirming charisma through simple gestures to make a good first impression
In a general way, to make a good impression, you need to bring out of your attitude qualities such as sympathy, empathy, courtesy, self-confidence, and credibility.
Let us analyze together how to disseminate these values through your reactions.
An assertive gaze:
When you meet new spokespersons, you want to show them that you are a trusted and credible person.
Much of this message goes through your ability to watch them, right in the eye, without showing any hesitation. To show your charisma, your eye contact should be frank and sustained.
A person who turns too quickly their eyes cannot make a good first impression in that which malaise and doubts are noticeable. By placing your spokesperson virtually on top of you, you deny the equal relationship which is crucial to the establishment of a mutual respect and a cordial understanding.
Smiles and nods:
Sympathy and empathy are two conditions inherent to the fact of making a good first impression. So you have to look like a respectable person, which takes into account the views of other individuals whose listening is at the heart of reactions.
For these values to be reported by the people who exchange words with you, you will have to smile repeatedly and in a natural way (train yourself in front of the mirror if this is not your strong point) and shake your head in agreement with their speech when it seems consistent.
An assumed stature:
To make a good first impression you cannot reflect the image of a person who holds up the weight of the discussion on his shoulders. You must, at all costs, keep yourself straight and head high, as a sign of confidence and assurance.
To express your stability and seriousness, you can place your feet and arms symmetrically, while ensuring to be powerfully anchored in the ground. You can also join your hands in the listening phase and open them during your speech in order to materialize the sharing of your perspective.
In summary, a good first impression leaves the image of a serene and confident person who feels good about himself, who moves freely within an environment in which he masters the codes and values.
To become a respected interlocutor, you should pay attention to your body language, your look, but also, how you react under pressure and rely on the ability to listen demonstrating your respect for others in your relational sphere.