Gratitude and recognition constitute a state of mind, a psychological disposition that enables us to evolve more serenely in our daily lives.
So no, I do not speak of an excess of kindness (even of nonsense) that consist, in fact, of apologizing of existing.
No, gratitude, as I see it, is this simple little mechanism we often forget because of the stress and constraints we face every day, but which yet brings many rewards. That of being recognized as a person endowed with social and relational skills first, but also a psychological relief.
Gratitude is this ability to recognize the efforts of our fellows, to put forward their attention and give them the merit. All this in a word, a single word expressing gratitude: “THANK YOU”!
I have already spoken of optimism, or the importance of positive thinking to advance our way of doing and seeing things.
Gratitude and recognition are part of this set of tools that will ultimately make life brighter, lighter and less confrontational. In short, they contribute to personal development and to the ability to truly change our lives.
The reflection of the day will, therefore, focus on the means available to us to adopt these two necessities that are gratitude and recognition. So without any further delay, I propose to you a journey to the heart of human psychology!
1. Gratitude and recognition are muscles so build them up!
Like any thought or daily reflex system, gratitude and recognition will become natural behavior from the time when you repeat them, so use them often as far as possible.
Just like a muscle then, the training allows it to develop, to call it out unconsciously.
Evolving from a mindset dominated by discontent, dissatisfaction, and pessimism towards a concrete open-mindedness is not easy, it takes time and practice.
At the beginning of your trip, gratitude and satisfaction will be most probably broken-winded, and forced.
It does not matter; it is the psychological process that plays the most important role: that of the motivating element, an engine of personal change.
Living in Morocco, I noticed the existing cultural differences between the United States and us. Here, no one says “thank you” in a store or a restaurant when the waiter brings a dish.
I admit I am remarkably intrigued. Why openly ignore gratitude and recognition in this way?
I still do not know, but the result is nevertheless convincing: it is rare to find a server who seemed to enjoy his work!
Personally, I do not adhere to this impersonal vision of service and continue to express my gratitude on a daily basis.
It costs nothing and greatly facilitates my integration.
All this to get back to the important, by including recognition and gratitude in your behavior, both in your personal and professional sphere, you will be promoting the respect towards you, will limit unnecessary conflict, allow the people around you enjoy small moments of satisfaction and develop a climate of much healthier life.
A situation that benefits all in short! So why not start from today?
2. gratitude and recognition at the heart of your writing
The principle of keeping a journal is an excellent way to maintain motivation and to highlight our personal progress towards achieving our objectives.
While this may sound harebrained, you can pretty much reserve a part of this journal to express your recognition and your gratitude on paper.
Write down your satisfaction sources, the factors that lead you to feel indebted, either towards other members of your environment or your existence as more general.
Your composition will then take on their full meaning when you reread a few weeks or months later, allowing you to realize that your life is not only tumultuous and chaotic.
3. Gratitude and recognition, the foundation for a fulfilling life philosophy?
The man is selfish by nature and centered on itself, although he is not fundamentally evil. While we cannot evolve without interactions, the latter are sometimes disowned, distorted, mocked. This is the paradox of modern psychology.
It is always very challenging to conceive doing something for free with the only goal to help someone, especially if that person is not one of our loved ones.
However, gratitude and recognition are elements that promote confidence and self-esteem. Let us not hide it when someone thanks us, we erected as a satisfaction distributor, we enjoy it.
Have you ever helped an elderly person cross the street, a stranger to read a letter in your native language or a small person to grasp something on a high shelf?
How did you feel after the latter has warmly expressed his gratitude to you? Do not you remember that feeling crossing your body, warming your heart?
The more your psychology is based on your willingness to help your neighbor, to let the greatest number benefit from your potential, the more you push the personal satisfaction to effectively participate in the development of a slightly less individualistic environment.
Far from me the idea of imposing myself as a moralist or keeping you away from your personal goals to improve your living conditions. My goal through this article is simply to reflect on the real scope and mechanisms caused by the gratitude and recognition. Two recognized values, but still too often ignored!
And you, how do you express them daily? What are your secrets for making them traits on which you constantly lean on?