Personal motivation is obviously a pillar of, personal development and happiness seeking.
Without this force, this desire to give the best of oneself, it becomes difficult to provide the means to achieve success.
However, we are all victims of distractions, of the urge to laze. After all, who does not dream to generate income without working? Who would not want to limit his efforts while being rewarded?
Do not worry, this psychological reflex is quite natural. I even think that those who say they never react like that exaggerate slightly.
The art of making excuses, is this tendency to clear ourselves of our responsibilities while justifying our lack of motivation by external elements: “Yes, but it rains”, “anyway, I already worked yesterday”,”how can I concentrate when I have family problems?”, “No, I have no desire now, I will do it later”…
This behavior, if it is understandable, it can quickly bog us down in a spiral of procrastination and negativity, leading us to lose sight of our daily goals and in the end to lose the taste of challenge, of risk-taking and well-done work.
If the excuses that we make, allow us to feel soothed immediately (since released from our obligations), they undermine our long-term vision, frequently causing a strong sense of guilt.
Here are some tips to find your personal motivation and limit the multiplication of excuses.
1. Personal motivation as a state of “trance”
Do not be afraid of this title, I’m not a guru!
No, when I speak of trance, I mean this momentum, this psychological strength that drives us to want to achieve our goals, to launch ourselves body and soul into an activity whatsoever.
It is not necessarily the completion of the task itself that gives us satisfaction, but rather its fulfillment, the realization of a result, generating pride and boosting the ego.
Remember: how you felt the last time when you have finished a job that has prompted several weeks of research? Or when you have finished an examination session after revising for weeks?
The satisfactions that arise from our personal motivation are punctual pleasures, ways to lighten our lives and at the same to flourish in achieving.
I am for example, always excited with the release of a new article. During its drafting, I wonder how you will react, if I will reach you as I would like.
It is this shared desire that is for me a source of motivation.
2. Personal motivation through introspection
The excuses we make besides members of our environment are not necessarily called in questions by them. We believe them then justified and convincing.
But the only person who knows the ins and outs of the situation is you. Yes, we can play others into believing what we want without “getting caught”. But is this important?
Rather than strive to make excuses, why not test your intellect to bring out the real reasons for your lack of personal motivation?
Personal motivation does not appear alone on waking, it is the fruit of a reflection, a perpetual calling into question. This is the setting of concrete, achievable and beneficial goals that will enable you to improve it.
To find personal motivation and make it a real state of mind, it is, therefore, necessary to highlight what you want from your daily life.
What satisfactions are you going to get from your day? How to materialize them? Are the efforts required in line with the reward?
If this is not the case, you will have to think seriously about your situation. The pursuit of happiness involves personal reward and fulfillment in our daily activities. If your occupation does not match your personality, do not hide it.
Be aware that it is never too late to change your life, as long as your road map is well defined. Trust your instinct. He knows where your personal motivation lies.
It is mine that allowed me to start this blog and share my thoughts with you today.
3. The personal motivation as an indicator of your health
The excuses we use to justify our lack of personal motivation are sometimes psychological manifestations of our health. Our body or mind sends us a signal, a notification of excessive fatigue.
The reasons are as diverse and varied (overwork, stress…) and should not be ignored. Personal motivation can sometimes push us to exceed our limits.
Before devoting myself to this passion that is writing, I was not the most serious … I could barely get up and had very little desire to work. Now it’s the opposite.
I throw myself on my productions in the morning, sometimes writes until late in the evening and when I’m not working, I think of my subjects. This sometimes makes me feel exhausted. This is where I realized that I should also take care of myself.
The body can not always follow the spirit. It is necessary to respect oneself, to provide oneself with the means to live in good conditions to maintain maximum efficiency.
Hobbies, break times, rest … Many factors are needed to soothe our psychology.
Do not neglect your health.
If you start to find excuses to slow your pace of work, or simply limit your activities, ask you about your state of fatigue.
This may be your subconscious trying to tell you something!
4. Personal motivation and unconscious fears
The explanation for the formulation of excuses that limit surpassing ourselves and focus on our personal objectives, do not always lies in a simple desire to do nothing or in a lack of personal motivation.
Indeed, many are the people who have set achievable goals, concrete and holders of benefits, but have this unconscious fear of success. They know in fact that everything rests on their shoulders, and they are alone with their responsibilities.
Personal motivation is then always present, but the pressure can make its appearance while influencing the psychology and determination. The excuses they give are used then as “prevention”, a mattress to cushion a possible fall.
We never doubt more than when the success is at hand…
Personal motivation is influenced by our environment, our values and our conception of the world around us.
To justify its absence (or decrease), we tend to find justifications, excuses for not having to deal with our greatest responsibility: the one of taking ourselves in hand, kicking one’s buttocks and achieve happiness!