Any project, any inclination to change life or desire to improve one’s lifestyle brings its batch of fears and challenges.
The possible impact on personal psychology at risk of failure, the judgments made by our environment, many factors can influence our motivation to find success in our businesses.
In fact, everyone says that he wants to prosper, but the reality is different. Very few of us are concretely able to handle risk-taking and embrace the decision to appear successful.
What holds us back is a set of beliefs and myths that manipulate us, affect us and weaken us.
One and only one question arises: how to overcome one’s fears?
These brakes to our personal fulfillment are found in our daily lives and our social interactions.
It is not a lack of desire to pull off great things that drives us to try nothing; it is the fear of not achieving this, of making fools of ourselves in the case of a fruitless attempt.
Quite a paradox when we know that the simple mechanism leading us to deal with adversity and to fight to see success appear is already in itself a source of respect and a strong message to our environment: “I will fight to change my life, whatever that may cost. ”
1. Overcoming fear, by remembering that it is common and shared by all:
It is when making the most important decisions of in lives that our doubts are most present.
Also, for good reason, wanting to change life necessarily engender a psychological reappraisal: “how am I going to evolve? “, “Am I on the track? “, “Is the risk worth the effort? “.
How many of us start their reasoning by “tomorrow, I will do this or that” and complete it with “yes, but if”?
Overcoming one’s fears is precisely to grant oneself the right to make errors. First, because it is human, and secondly because it is a learning, an improvement, and a personal development factor.
Everyone endure fear: from the man that seems charismatic and devoid of doubts, to the little teenager struggling to come out of his shell.
Even more shocking, in discussing this subject with people who have admittedly experienced success, you will see that they were all petrified at every point in their evolution.
Professional athletes know fear before going on land, company managers are nervous before a meeting, musicians are anxious before going on stage, the authors ask themselves too many questions before the release of their books.
It is precisely the fear that makes the performance too juicy!
2. Overcoming fear by focusing on oneself:
To overcome our fears, the most important requirement is to focus on our principal goal.
No matter whether the success or failure that results from the process, the important thing is the forward motion, the decision to change your life, the key factor that made you take risks to see profits.
Deep within yourself, you are unsuspicious that you are observed, that you are judged, that your legitimacy evolves according to the results of such steps, and this is what makes fear a component of your everyday psychology.
Well, you are wrong!
Most actors in your environment already have enough to think by focusing on their personal problems, to waste time studying you like a freak.
In fact, the only people who are remarkably interested in your progress, your fears and developments, to the point of getting involved in your life are the people who love you, support you and want you to succeed.
Is it then so irrational to think that they will easily forgive your mistakes? Will they dwell more on the attempt than on the result?
Overcoming our fears is also learning to focus on our own person and pull the motivation from our entourage.
3. Overcoming our fears by defining our objectives:
To actually see the risks undertaken pay, and enjoy the benefits of a personal decision to consolidate the conditions for success, you need a roadmap.
Your goal and the intermediate steps must be identified before you get started in your business.
It is by keeping these objectives in sight that you will progress in a concrete way and will struggle against the fear that drives you.
Indeed, every accomplishment that is part of a more global sense, no matter how small, strengthens self-esteem, self-confidence and stimulates personal motivation.
It is impossible to change our life by looking only at the materialization of the result.
Technically, this means that if you learn a new language, for example, you cannot castigate throughout the course, by saying that you will achieve success only when you become bilingual.
Each grammar rule, expression or new learned lexical field is a victory, a step towards success.
The ability, to overcome our fears, is based on proximity to our short-term objectives, as part of a larger overall process.
4. Overcoming our fears by not seeking collective approval:
The success is frightful because it does not fit into the overall vision of your environment.
It stirs up passions, jealousies. The general mentality is like that: those who succeed do not deserve the honors they become outcasts.
Why? Because they move away from mediocrity, because they highlight the fact that you can truly change your life if desired.
Hence the need not to seek the approval of your environment to overcome fear. Individualism reigns there, and nobody wants to see you stand out (except your loved ones).
Do not be afraid to be different, to put into question the myths and values that trap you, that stick to the skin like a ball and chain of the convict.
You cannot build yourself based on collective expectations. The time has come to assert yourself and flourish, to embrace your willingness to personal success.
Overcoming fears is a necessity, a priority to improve our daily lives and see success materialize. You do not have to be ashamed or apologize for wanting to take advantage of your potential.
We have only one life, so we should live it fully!