“Charity begins with oneself”… You have probably heard this proverb somewhere.
What if it was true? What if the keys to happiness and success were based on our ability to believe in ourselves?
It is a question that everyone asks: are determination and personal consideration truly the motors leading to fulfillment and well-being?
It is a thought process that deserves being held. Or, better still, to be put to the test of our daily reality.
It is, of course, the reason for my intervention today.
Like you, I am constantly trying to improve myself, to prove my value and to convince myself that all my desires can come true, on condition that the means are given to me.
It seems that the best way to see these goals come true is to be positive, to create conditions favoring the appearance of personal satisfaction.
Well, all of that is very nice, but how to treat oneself as one deserves to be treated?
Start by asking yourself: how positive thinking can change my life?
1. Adopting positive thinking by giving yourself the chance to learn a little every day
A smidgen of general knowledge never hurts! Think of yourself as a business or a computer program.
Each capability or additional information acquired is a plus, an investment in the long term.
Knowledge is an immeasurable wealth; it is a fact.
The more we store, the more our personal value increases, thus radically boosting our confidence.
Who has never found himself in the middle of a great conversation, in which he would have liked to participate, but unfortunately without really mastering the subject?
Here is a simple little trick allowing for a better understanding of one’s environment: Every morning when you wake up, take fifteen minutes to improve your skills in a particular field.
Open a book, surf the net or watch TV if you like.
The key is to have a targeted theme. There are many experts or specialized programs whose purpose are precise to disseminate knowledge.
It is perhaps less entertaining than an episode of “How I Met your Mother”, but it will have the merit of bringing you something concrete.
This way, you can start the day well, and say to yourself that you are a bit more cultured than yesterday and hopefully less than you will be tomorrow.
It is, in short, the first step towards positive thinking, this state of mind that will help you thrive in your daily life.
2. Opting for positive thinking by finding your motivation in the disdain
When I was young, I often dealt with severe criticism.
“You can not do whatever it is”, “you are too turbulent”, “you are stupid”… Always difficult to take on board, I vowed not to let myself get broken by what I now, in retrospect, see as free and baseless attacks.
My determination was born from my desire to prove to the world that like everyone else, I could build a life and succeed.
It is not that I wanted to be a star or even get recognition, success can take on many forms, as diverse as they are varied.
No, just get qualifications, find a job that I liked and start a family.
Your environment is such that you cannot please everyone.
After all, one is always “someone else’s fool”.
That said, the behavior of other individuals operating in your social sphere must not and should not shake your confidence or challenge your way of being.
If constructive criticism can be analyzed and incorporated into your reasoning on building your personality, you should never let an outsider get to you solely through a judgment that has not objectively any legitimacy.
positive thinking is also this: being able not to stop or let oneself be demolished by words or acts against us.
You must grant yourself the credibility you deserve, regardless of what others think.
3. Embrace positive thinking by giving importance to details
When one thinks about it, happiness is a big word.
However, what defines it? Having a house, a dog and two kids? A luxury car? Hundreds of friends? The jury is still out.
For my part, I consider it as satisfaction, as short and inconsistent as it may often be.
Eating a pastry makes me happy. Going back to bed after my alarm has gone off makes me happy. The lick my dog gives me before going to lie down in his corner makes me happy.
The current trend leans towards exaggeration, in search of perfection and always more. Moreover, what if true happiness were those small magical moments? A succession of positive feelings elusive as fast as they are materialized?
That is what I tell myself every day. I may be wrong, but I surely can see life differently and find satisfaction in places some would see as common.
Every detail of life counts, it is how they are perceived that changes your mindset.
4. Positive thinking is putting one’s life into perspective
To believe in one’s potential is also to give oneself the opportunity to realize that our life is frozen, neither in time nor space.
Everything can change overnight.
An idea or a meeting can make you evolve to the point of finding yourself in situations that you would have never thought to encounter.
The routine is only a veil, a cognitive limitation to which we stick by fear of making natural choices and taking risks.
Having established this, we often begin to dream of another life, to wonder what our lives would be like if we had made different choices. Tell yourself that it is never too late to change your life, wherever you are and whomever you are and this, is priceless!
Positive thinking is finding ways to forgive mistakes, to learn from the past and to not give up on yourself.
You are your best friend, do not doubt it.
You are the only person in the world able to define your happiness.
It is all about perspective. Far from being an escape from a gloomy and dull existence, this state of mind lays the foundation for personal development, the one that will allow you to avoid dreaming your life, but instead, allow you to live your dreams.