If a serene and balanced life requires a personal adjustment to the values of one’s environment and recognition you get out. It goes without saying that you are the first person to judge your potential and affect your psychology of a positive manner.
Thus, you need to develop an ability to enjoy yourself at your fair value, so as to be recognized in your social sphere.
Self-love is the primary factor in the appearance of self-confidence and well-being.
It influences, the perception that others in your environment have toward you, and your charisma in a more general way.
Only, here, like all psychological mechanisms, there is a downside.
An excessive self-love turns into admiration, even in a boundless adoration better known under the name of “narcissism”.
This psychological deviance (which can also be pathological) is perceived as aggression, a challenge to the legitimacy of others, in that, the one who seems to develop it, position itself well above the rest of the people around him.
From here our reflection of the day: how to learn to preserve self-love without abusing it, to live happier?
1. Recognize your potential and qualities to move forward in life
If you get up in the morning without the certainty that you are a good person, that you deserve to be happy, to live an exciting life, and that you are not bad looking, your life will turn quickly to hell.
Self-love is the ability to grant yourself the confidence you deserve every day, to recognize your value and believe in your potential.
How to develop it you may ask?
Why not starting by staying in tune with your inner self?
Spend a few minutes each day to wonder on which prejudices your most persistent doubts are founded.
This way, you will put in evidence the brakes to your self-love and try to free yourself from this misconception of yourself that you have.
2. Getting into action to strengthen self-love
The development of self-love is based on a real willingness to change one’s psychology.
So we have to take things in hand and make radical changes to evolve the substance of the judgment that you carry on your person.
You do not find yourself beautiful enough?
Perform a makeover to mark the birth of a new state of mind.
Buy new clothes and try a stylist to change your appearance.
Do you think you are too little cultivated?
Open books, learn a new language, follow a home training or an evening classes.
It is not the result; it is the psychological approach which is important here.
Highlighting the factors that decrease self-love and deciding to tackle them, is already adopting the disposition that will foster the emergence of greater confidence.
Lean on your victories, on your personal successes to dispel preconceived beliefs about your ability to take on new challenges.
Your life is not made only of failures and mishaps, so why let these latter outweigh the rest?
Also, make sure you surround people who focus on the well-being they feel at your side.
Your partner, your family, your friends, many people can help to strengthen self-love in that the benefits they pull at your contact are concrete and palpable.
This process must be based on realism and reassessment of your feelings.
Indeed, dissatisfaction and seeking perfection are inherent conditions to human nature.
Very few people are fully satisfied with their condition or their personality.
We have just to accept the fact that we can always improve, but that must be based on trust that we accord to ourselves.
3. Can self-love lead to narcissism?
Unlike the people who doubt their capabilities, their physical or their intelligence, we find those who think, to be too good for their environment.
If the boundary between charisma and narcissism may look fine, yet their effects are reversed.
Indeed, an individual who grants himself too much credit will be quickly perceived as full of himself, uninteresting, even harmful.
Narcissism often begins with a physical admiration and rarely relies on the success through the experience.
It is based on excessive personal highlighting and low attention to other members of his environment.
Thus, narcissism calls into questions empathy and takes its roots in a need, or even an exigency of recognition.
This behavior causes a propensity to highlight the failures of others and a tendency to try to induce guilt in people who question this attitude.
We all know someone who thinks clearly to be superior to the rest of the planet and seems to despise the rest of individuals.
This character trait is destructive and often leads to widespread disregard.
4. How to develop self-love without becoming narcissistic?
Not to cross what some consider to be a fine line, you must above all be realistic.
If you need to showcase your potential and emphasize your successes, your failures should in turn serve you to improve and grow yourself.
You can not ignore your environment.
Certainly, you do not have to stop at the judgments of others, but that does not mean you are worth more than another person.
We often say that to love someone you have to love yourself, I will add “within reasonable limits” and insist on the fact that self-love should strengthen your psychology, without encroaching on your objectivity.
Working on self-love is a key to flourishing and achieving happiness.
This priority should not, however, turn into an obsession.
Loving yourself does not mean you pass yourself before anything else.
By doing this, you will call into question your social skills, which also favor the appearance of happiness and personal fulfillment.
It is all about balance!